Lately, I feel like my life is one big game of catch up. No matter how much effort I make, either the bed is not made, the laundry has to be re-washed because I forgot and left it sitting, the floor I thought I just vacuumed is covered in crumbs, my plans for a homemade dinner transform into visiting the Wendy’s drive-through…and my shelves are collecting dust. It’s when I take time to think about it that I become overwhelmed. In addition to my “house work” there are read -alouds and homework and Girl Scouts and Ballet and Theater Group; I am not just a busy mom, I am the busy mom of a very busy little girl. Usually, the balance of all of this plus that important role I play over at 2572 Kennedy Boulevard is one that I manage with relative ease. But, these past few weeks…I do not mind stating that I am wiped out.
So, mothers of high school daughters, help me out here. Your daughters are even busier than mine, many of your families are larger than mine, your jobs are as important as mine. I guess my question is…should I feel guilty or are your houses as harried and disorganized as mine feels right now!? All jokes aside, I know that we as mothers have to reach a point where we are comfortable with “letting go.” By that I mean, letting the small things go; it’s ok for me to leave my coffee cup in the sink over night, if it means I can do Abigail’s read – aloud with her. It’s ok if I have to fold two loads of rather large laundry once a week rather than perfect little loads every night. It’s even ok if every once in a while I leave with the bed unmade ( although I have to admit it drives me nuts the entire day!)
In talking with my friends, I realize I am not the only mom who feels this way- stay at home or working, there truly never are enough hours in the day for us to take care of everyone else and really give ourselves some much needed care too. And so, this week, since this feeling of being overtaken by my hectic life is on my mind, I wanted to share it in case any of our SDA moms were feeling the same way. And I wanted to put these feelings out there so all of us moms realize that when we feel wiped out, perhaps it means we are doing a wonderful job. When we are a bit overwhelmed, it’s because we give so much love to those around us. When we notice that imperfect couch cushion, or speck of dust or unsigned letter on our desk at the office, instead of beating ourselves up, we should give ourselves a pat on the back for all that each of us has accomplished on a given day. From sun up to sun down, we work hard, we are excellent role models for our daughters and it’s ok for us to be tired, as long as we are proud as well!
And if that doesn’t cheer you when you are feeling bogged down…then let me share with you one important quote that always makes me feel so much better about my role as a mom. Hope it makes you laugh…and remember…it’s true!